diff --git a/waggle-dance.py b/waggle-dance.py
index c9e5529..6e24925 100755
--- a/waggle-dance.py
+++ b/waggle-dance.py
@@ -221,7 +221,7 @@ async def handle_dm(message):
         discriminator = match.group(2)
         matching_users = [u for u in client.users if u.name == name and u.discriminator == discriminator]
         if len(matching_users) == 0:
-            await message.channel.send("sorry, I can't find user {}".format(handle))
+            await message.channel.send("sorry, I can't find user {}, it looks like they're not in any of the discords I'm in".format(handle))
         else:
             target = matching_users[0].id
             if target in get_blocks().get(requester, []):